I have a history of being a member of the C of E until about 2019. I value the traditional biblical teaching of marriage but need to accept that some C of E churches will now offer same sex blessings and some will not.
Even though l have recently left the C of E l very much appreciate their liturgical style of worship, history of biblical faith and teaching .
I have concerns that some laity may not have heard a balanced discussion about the value of marriage . Some in our larger society and also within church believe that supporting traditional marriage is harmful. My question is this teaching always harmful or can considerable people find support relief and even improved mental health with this teaching .
How we love people is important everyone at times can have struggles of various types including sexual desires. The International Foundation for Therapeutic and Counselling choice ( IFTCC). (IFTCC.ORG ) have a lengthy declaration statement supporting the value of therapy and counselling for gay people who struggle with same sex attraction .
This declaration has research that shows that an approach to therapy or counselling which allows a broader approach than just highlighting that the troubled individual with unwanted same sex ataction should always move forward in preparation eventually for possible sexual intimate relations is, not necessarily always the most beneficial for the individual.
The outcomes of some more broader therapeutic approaches have found that there is a considerable percentage of individuals showing a lesser degree of depression and even suicidal intent then before therapeutic interventions. For further details please see the IFTCC declaration on their website IFTCC.ORG.
Also sexual orientation can be fluid . It is incorrect to say that everyone is born gay , bisexual or hetrosexual etc and don’t change. Saying this it must be also said , very much so ,that a lot of gay attracted people will always be gay attracted and within the church they should find love and support. The issue is not that individuals can be same sex attracted but the difficult issue of intimate sexual relations.
This subject is complicated and this desire for sexual intimacy is real and can be strong . Many people have different boundaries instead of the traditional biblical view that sex is best placed within marriage between a man and a woman.
I hold to the traditional view but now C of E churches will eventually choose to either maintain this view or change. The choice will be up to each individual clergy member .
A leading UK website that supports traditional marriage is The Coalition for Marriage ( c4m.org.). This website has research and videos that support traditional marriage and reaches out to people of all faiths and none.
My plea is can we at least agree to disagree and accept differing views on this matter . Perhaps the expression “live and let live” is appropriate for this matter. I would rather all of the C of E continue to uphold the traditional view but accept l must that change has happened.
Robert Medford